ESFP Communication Skills

Feelings and more feelings fill the life of ESFPs and give it meaning. They are easy to communicate with, and a lot can be discussed and laughed about with ESFPs. They exhibit great warmth when talking about others, even if they sometimes tease them. When it comes to gatherings of friends and acquaintances, ESFPs are always the life of the party. That is how trusting and warm relationships start, which are especially strengthened by their sincere attentiveness to the pressing problems of their conversation parties. ESFPs’ energy and capacity for empathy inevitably engage others in the lively atmosphere they create around themselves. It is true, however, that their drive to create a festive or cheerful atmosphere can lead to displeasure among some who may find it inappropriate.

Some topics are not particularly interesting to ESFPs, for instance those related to theoretical and logical reasoning. Elaborate discussions of scientific or technical topics do not particularly engage them. They can sometimes keep up a conversation around these topics, but it mostly has to do with their drive to have a wide social circle.

ESFPs have a large circle of acquaintances and friends. After all, a lot of people like to engage in communication with people who are open and who exude an elevated happy mood.

As a rule, business communication among ESFPs is connected to participating in solving current problems that are often related to public relations, advertising or sales. They often manage to find quick solutions to practical tasks where establishing trusting and warm relationships plays an important role.

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ESFP: Strategies for Successful Communication

Communication between ESFPs and people of a similar mindset, or to put it differently, people of sensory/feeling (SF) personality types including ESFJ, ISFJ, ESFP, and ISFP comes at ease. People in this group have roughly the same way of apprehending the world, and therefore it is easy for ESFPs to share their feelings and emotions with other SFs and in turn relate to feelings or views of others in the SF group.

In order to effectively communicate with sensory/thinking (ST) personality types including ESTJ, ISTJ, ESTP, and ISTP, ESFPs should keep to mostly concrete topics and facts and their direct consequences. This type of communication can seem dry for ESFPs but is the most effective when it comes to communicating with people in the ST group, because it best suits their way of thinking and is easy for them to understand.

When communicating with intuitive/feeling (NF) personality types including ENFJ, INFJ, ENFP, and INFP, ESFPs should keep to a conversation style that can be understood by both sides, i.e. those based upon feelings (F). However, the sides may encounter difficulties in communication because ESFPs can find it difficult to maintain discussions that involve abstract perceptions and theories, but which forms the basis of thought for many representatives of the NF group and interests them.

When communicating with people intuitive/rational (NT) personality types such as ENTJ, INTJ, ENTP, and INTP, it is best for ESFPs to keep to communication based upon logic and concepts. The problem, however, is that ESFPs can find it difficult to carry on this kind of dialogue. They end up having to strain in order to come up with argumentation people from the NT group can resonate with, which often either leads to ESFPs trying to wind down the conversation or to their frustration over the other side unable to “get it”. In order to ensure an acceptable level of communication for both sides ESFPs should adjust themselves beforehand to a communication style that suits the NTs.

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What helps successful communication for an ESFP:

  • The topic involves feelings and emotions
  • The topic includes something that helps reduce stress and elevate the mood
  • The topic mostly deals with concrete, current issues
  • Communication with people from the SF or NF groups

What hinders successful communication for an ESFP:

  • The topic mostly deals with abstract, theoretical issues
  • The topic requires complex, deep reflection
  • Long communication with people from the NT group

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